Update: I had to check the date on this one: updating this exactly 12 years later! Twelve years! So much has happened, so much has changed and yet personal development and the way we deal with life is still fundamentally the same. In this article, I talk about frustration, something that in the year 2020, we are dealing with on a daily basis with COVID-19 and some of the political issues around the world and especially lately in the USA. Mental health is an issue as many people around the world are forced to isolate and social distance. People are finding the lack of social interaction, hugs and handshakes, working together, visiting, worshiping together are all on the ‘do not do’ list. The final statement in this article is that we have to do it together. Our health officials, in this 2020 time, are telling us that we are all in this together and we need to work together to stop the virus. How much things change and yet stay the same.
It has been an interesting night. I have spent it trying to do things. Trying to get a decent picture to put on Facebook….do you think this one will do? And then I was trying to get into this blog and I couldn’t figure that out and finally, after walking away for a while and doing other things, I came back and somehow here I am.
Sometimes life can be like that – just frustrating. It has been raining steadily here all day. I woke up this morning from a dream that I was an hour late for an appointment with a client that I had this morning. I left earlier than normal, found myself in a traffic tie up due to a multi-vehicle accident on the highway. I was lucky, I could turn around and take an alternate route and got there just in the nick of time! I took my dog….you should have seen me – computer, large resource book, umbrella, purse, and dog under my arm! I had a coffee, but it was left in the car! Everyone loved Jujube and he was there by request. So that made up for drinking the coffee cold several hours later on my way home.
I’ve been feeling kind of down lately. There have been big changes in my life and I think the rest of me is just catching up. Some things are better than I can imagine, and others just aren’t working out the way I planned. Even though I don’t want to, I seem to catch myself focusing on the negative ones.
I know this happens to a lot of us. We get frustrated, or disappointed, or in a funk for some reason and then the task is to get over it.
Sometimes it requires asking for professional help, like counselling, and other times it just takes our own self-talk and determination by continually reminding ourselves that we are the ones who control our own lives and that we can make it what we want.
I remember Stephen Covey saying it takes 21 days to form a new habit. That’s not bad timing. It is less than a month.
Sometimes we just have to keep counting up the things that aren’t going right and telling ourselves that each one is just another stepping stone to things turning around and going in the direction that we really want them too.
I’m not saying that we don’t have to work to make things go our way. That is such an important part of the equation. We must set our path to the goal. What I am saying is that we have to keep our head up and sing that cheery song while we wade through the puddles.
Come on, let’s do it together!
November 7, 2008 Updated: November 7, 2020